Blessed or not? #BlogchatterA2Z

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The second post for Blogchatter A2Z is here. The Theme “Questions you muse about” is a reading and learning experience. A conversation with your heart emotes sensitivity whereas your brain sensitizes you to reality. I hope to achieve a balance.

Today’s musing is about being blessed or not?

It is usually on a bad day that this question pops up in your mind. Then begins the comparison with others. First tip: Do not compare.

Stop thinking about the present situation (which is not easy). Divert you mind, drink some water, listen to your favourite song. Then slowly think of the fresh air you are breathing, (with the rising levels of pollution). That’s the first thing showing that your are blessed. This is reason enough for you to be blessed.

Stop suffocating yourself with unhealthy thoughts in this pure air, and move forward. Thinking ahead, always look at the larger picture and count your blessings. Not everyone lets you down, it is just a few people or a particular situation that urges you to ask yourself whether you are blessed or not. Get out of the cocoon and spend time with people who make you feel you are blessed.

Expect validation from those who respect you not from those who expect from you.

We are all blessed in some way or the other. Comparison reduces self-esteem. Hence consider yourself the best, perform (on a day-to day basis) like you are the best, and there is not stopping you from being the best.

Keep counting your blessings, and infinity is just round the corner.

Au revoir.


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Am I ARTICULATE enough?


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Many a time, there has been a situation where the conversation has led to an argument and then, a misunderstanding. Hope the “many a time” becomes “rarely” after a good read here.

“Am I articulate enough?”

This is a question that you can ask yourself when you recollect your thoughts about a conversation that didn’t go your way the right way. Were you saying what you actually wanted to say? Well, if yes then great, if no then even a single gesture could have given you away.

Speaking is a skill , that includes not only the right words, but also the appropriate facial expressions and body language. The words must have instructions or information just right for the listener. Do not try to say more than required especially in formal situations. Informal is an open field where your relationship with the speaker or speakers differ. Here too there are differences, repressed anger that is usually released in the form of humour, love for a particular person is usually displayed in the form supporting statements.

I urge you to look back on a few situations and recollect your words whether they were right or not, I also encourage you to prepare… yes, for a similar situation in the future where you can be articulate enough to get the job done. Some may say we will never get into a similar situation, but I believe that if things are not happening the way you want it to most of the time, then the problem is yours, stop blaming and take charge of your words that will immediately change into action.

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10 things I am grateful for & 9 things I learnt during #MyFriendAlexa

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I am grateful

  1. To the Almighty
  2. To Blogchatter who organised #MyFriendAlexa.
  3. To Blogchatter team who sent me the mails with regular updates.
  4. To my fellow-bloggers who responded instantly to the messages.
  5. To Twitter for providing me a platform to connect with like-minded bloggers.
  6. To WordPress who gave me my first blog.
  7. To all the people who read my posts.
  8. For all the comments and likes on my posts.
  9. To my family who supported my participation.
  10. To my Internet service provider. (BSNL and Airtel).

The things I learnt

  1. To stick to a schedule.
  2. The importance of Social Media.
  3. The importance of appreciating others’ posts and sharing them.
  4. That design, font and colour of the website matter a lot.
  5. Making Google my best friend.
  6. #100word story and wrote one to.
  7. That some people are on the same boat as me, many ahead, a few behind.
  8. That I can stay up late if I am participating in #MyFriendAlexa.
  9. NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE.

P.S: I also wrote me second post on Women’s Web during the same period. You can read it here:

http://www.womensweb.in/2018/09/indian-women-in-the-oscars-village-rockstars-by-rima-das-spet18wk4mc/

Merci beaucoup

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Today has just begun. I wrote my first #100 word story/poem.

https://www.momspresso.com/parenting/questy-musings/story/the-heart-knows-it

More thoughts on the same idea follow. The beginning is always difficult, once you catch steam there is nothing stopping you. Do what your heart tells you.

Here are 16 tips to follow your heart.

  1. Spend more time with yourself.
  2. Once you are there (with yourself), observe your ideas.
  3. Write/Type them down.
  4. Pay keen attention to the people you think of.
  5. They would usually be the ones you love or hate, or love to hate for whatever reason.
  6. Make note of them.
  7. Revisit your last meeting/intense conversation with them.
  8. Surely there is a connection between  your idea/thought and that person. Find it.
  9. Either that person is encouraging your idea or restricting it.
  10. Try and reason out why?
  11. Focus on your thoughts again.
  12. Similar thoughts, pursue it.
  13. Different thoughts.
  14. Reason out why?
  15. Finally wind up for the day.
  16. The next day if you have point 2 ideas recurring, you are an independent thinker. Go for it.

 

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Four Teens

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A: Hi Guys! what’s new?

B: Nothing… holidays are usually boring.

C: Yes… Parents around.

A: So what?

D: Nice to have them at home. Or else they are usually all dressed and hurrying?

B: It’s better that way. At least they don’t tell us what to do.

A: Why does someone have to tell you what to do, if you do what you have to do.

C: They are all the time lecturing us on time management, mobile and studies. No more topics left under the sun to discuss.

B: True that!

D: We discuss politics, bollywood, hollywood, and even relatives.

A: Don’t you tell them about your friends and teachers?

C: Friends!! The minute I say friend… there is a siren at home.

A: Why?

C: My friends are categorised into two sections; one whom I call friends and the second set consists of whom my parents call my friends. Hence, I detest talking about friends.

D: Then what do you talk about?

C: I don’t talk… I listen.

A: Ok, now listen to me… Ha… Ha… ok hear this, the reason I called you all is that today is my Dad’s birthday and mom wants to give him a surprise but she doesn’t know what and how. Pool in some ideas!

B: Does you mom discuss all this with you? Great!

A: Of course. Why?

B: My mom is always in the kitchen when I am around. I don’t even think she remembers Dad’s birthday.

A: And on holidays?

B: She takes art sessions.

A: Wow, she is an artist.

B: Yes, and when she is free she is busy cooking for us, and only telling me to either study or arrange my cupboard.

D: Guess what I found when I arranged my cupboard last week. Our UNO pack of cards that we used to play every summer vacation.

C: My dad keeps telling me to clean my shelf and study table, as if I am even going to study.

A: Why… don’t you study?

C: Who studies all the time? I study only for the exams.

B: Same here, but I do a little math homework otherwise a call goes to my Dad.

A: Anyway guys, it’s my Dad’s birthday…

D: We remember… how about getting a cake?

A: I have done that. Something different.

B: Why different? Is you dad going to appreciate it. All that my dad would say “you shouldn’t have spent so much money”.

A: I don’t want to think about that. My mom and I want to surprise him… that’s her idea. Do you get it?

B: How will I get it when my dad surprises me every time with a new reason to shout at me?

A: That’s ridiculous. Why does your dad shout at you?

B: That’s because he doesn’t like me.

A: Why doesn’t he like you? What does he say that makes you feel that way?

B: He calls me useless all the time.

A: And why do you think he does that?

B: Because when he comes home, I am sleepy and just lazing around.

A: Do you greet him when he comes?

B: No

A: Do you tell him about your school?

B: No

A: Then what do you do?

B: Nothing.

A: No wonder he calls you useless.

C: ha.. ha.. ha… hee… hee… hee…

A: Quiet here, My Dad’s bithday is coming to an end dicussing his dad, and you are laughing.

C: Sorry Dude.

D: My dad walks in with a contagious smile and always has something hilarious to tell us.

B: My dad is hilarious, he walks in with the phone on one ear, walks straight into the room, and comes back with the phone on the other ear.

A: I think you must have dinner with your dad and prove it to him that you are not useless.

B: Tried that too… he only asks how much did I study today and whether I have a test tomorrow? For both which I always reply in the negative and this upsets him. And then he goes back to the ear-changing action on the phone.

C: I sneak into my room the minute dad comes. He’a always asking me silly things like do you know what happened in the parliament today?

D: I wait for my Dad.

B: I  go to sleep before he arrives.

A: It’s my Dad’s birthday today!!!!

 

 

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A Baker’s Dozen

A baker’s dozen is the number 13. In Medival England, the bakers were penalised or fined if the bread was not the right weight. They tossed in the extra one and played safe, and this term was coined.

I am totally in sync with this phrase. Let us be prepared always a little extra not for the fear of being fined, but to perform well. Some people do just the job required, I have heard the phrase “I will do what I have been told” many a times. Yes, but going one step ahead and knowing the reason for performing the task too adds value to it. Knowing the bigger picture helps with the task being completed in a natural way.  

I recall a quote of Jennifer Holliday:

A lot of times we base things on our immediate circumstance. We don’t see the big picture for our lives. We don’t love ourselves. We don’t have a way of gauging the future.

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When the clock strikes 12

Today is a busy day! I’ve heard a zillion times. Everyone loves to be busy… either on their phone or laptop, and if everyone catches someone doing nothing, they call someone lazy.

But how productive is everyone?

Well, working at the right time matters the most. We all experience an alertness peak, where our performance is exceptional and work gets done quickly. This alertness peak is the ultradian rhythm which lasts for about 90-120 minutes and is periodic with a break of about 15-20 minutes.

I chose this topic as my musing for the day as I had experienced this without knowing that such a rhythm exists.  I had observed this about 7 years back when I discovered that the most daunting task/job would be easily completed during this period. And moreover, I could handle interuptions with ease, that’s the icing on the cake. And then fatigue and dullness sets in. I would be back in form after a while. I did understand that working causes fatigue but what I understood later was that it occurs in periodic intervals.

With reading too, I would read a particular paragraph and again go back to it in search of connectivity with the plot. This made me realise that I wasn’t focused. Taking a break helped. The break could last upto 20 minutes not more. Most people find post-lunch a difficult time, surprisingly for me it is my ultradian rhythm period of the day (with a cup of tea, of course).

For some, the alertness peak is early in morning, for others, it could be late night. Each one has their ultradian rhythm depending on their body clock and psychological mindset. Find your ultradian rhythm, note down your productive hours, energy levels at different hours on each day and you will have the right data.

So next time you find someone doing nothing, you know he/she is gearing up for the alertness peak.

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