lesson learnt – Questy Musings

Do you have it all?

Do you have it all? or Do you have it in you?

Both can be different questions, and the answer is always YES.

You have it all, what you need, and you can keep trying owning the fact that what you have is good, and it can be better,

NOT

what you have is not good. That makes all the difference.

If you enjoy what you have, even if it is less, you can strive to make more, but if you crib, in the long run, you will continue to crib. Attitude is all that matters. I am sure you have seen people with not so excellent skills set but an attitude to reach the stars. They are the ones who keep trying and achieve that skill set they need.

The time that you have, the 24 hours, and an positive attitude is all that matters, all other reasons are humbug.

It is only you and you who can change things, all the motivational talks are to push you to get up, not just sit there and wait for more motivations, a new day is enough motivation. And it occurs every 24 hours.

I have incorporated some new habits, consciously, it has not led to instant success, but made me confident to take up new tasks, to work in an efficient manner.

Each day we meet new people, read new content, listen to new music, watch new series. Why? To feel different, and keep updated with the latest. You are luck you have that Netflix subscription, your city power grid id functioning, your are healthy enough to meet new people. You have it all, appreciate it and be grateful every single moment.

Now the perspective from the other side, when someone meets you after a while, do they sense a whiff of fresh air around you, you are the same person but haven’t wilted away, you still have it in you. Thats YOU!

This is written for https://www.theblogchatter.com/daily-writing-prompts-for-write-a-page-a-day WAPAD Blogchatter. My posts are based on posters created towards Jan end, I wasn’t even sure of using them for WAPAD But here I am!

Questy Musings is a musing with a question. I have certain questions that keep me busy. Sharing my thoughts aloud, I wonder if this post touched you and made you reflect upon certain aspects of your life, my blog, my write-up here has achieved its mission. See you around soon.

Do you react or over-react?

Expectations are a part of human tendency. We expect things to go a certain way, we expect a certain result, we expect people to talk in a certain way. And when things go right, it is bliss.

But if the results are deviated, it is chaos. What do you do at this point? React or over-react?

If you sit and analyse what happened, it helps, but at that time, the sadness comes out in the form of anger and blinds you.

You need to let out your emotions, but not in a restrained manner, and channelize them.

Take a bath, refresh yourself
Divert the attention
Think of/Consider alternate routes.
Understand the people you were dealing with
Make sure you understand, why and what happened.

These expectations are a part of life, one thing goes wring is not the end of the road, people and thing are sometimes vulnerable and circumstances may change.

Where am I?

Where am I? I am here and so are you? Why are we here? Where are you? You are where you are supposed to be. You will reach where you are destined to. After trying to discover who am I (in my previous post https://apprendre24.wordpress.com/2021/08/08/who-am-i/ ) , here I am trying to decipher where am I, despite having my address on the Adhaar card, I can still question my humble soul about its domicile. Let’s do it!

If everything was in our hands, we would have been on Space – X with Musk. Chuckle 😉

The Marriage

I need to address (pun intended) the concept of marriage here, where there is a change of place for most women who go on to stay with their in-laws (of course, the trend is changing now, a little better than ever), a complete change of scene where she is a new-comer rebooting her life. A fact that I never-ever understood! Why??

But as one reaches the marriageable age, things are different, sometimes all some young ladies want is a break, and this is the perfect one (with a hubby and a Honey-Moon, not mentioning the laws that have to be abided by.. ha ha!!)

I choose to believe that a married spouse is filled with strength and can re-start over again, and the laws 😉 need a change in life-style, and therein enters the spouse stirring various emotions leading to a mush-required change. The spouse is at the right place at the right time to put the house in order!!

Note: In earlier times, I would have typed the lady instead of spouse. With changing times, lets change our vocabulary.

2. Education

This comes way before marriage; now it is more of a personal choice after School, but earlier the Hostel or Boarding school were dreaded phrases.

The education received outside the house is real and stays with you. At home, everything is taken for granted. If you went away from home to study, your have learnt life skills with education. Lucky you!

Where am I? If you are at a place that you aren’t happy, consider it a learning experience, if you are at a place that is difficult to adapt to, be it the heat, the cold, the vibes, the aura or the ambiance, try moving around things to get comfortable. I can vouch for this. Why are you in a particular place? You would know that after you leave it!

3. Your choice

Where are you? Not by luck or marriage or work, but by choice. If you are the person who made a choice and got to go there, kudos to you. You stay there irrespective whether you like it or not, YOU STAY PUT, because it is your choice.

Also your choice is through a conviction that you have very strongly stood by. The choice is always yours!!

In my opinion, where you are is the right place as of now, but if you feel the need to change, do it, however difficult.

Questy Musings is a musing with a question. I have certain questions that keep me busy when i have nothing to do. Sharing my thoughts aloud, I wonder if this post touched you and made you reflect upon certain aspects of your life, my blog, my write-up here has achieved its mission. Let me know where are you? See you around soon.

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