Memorable, Eventful and fulfilling!

Hello everyone! We are in 2020 that marks the beginning of a new decade. Before stepping into it, it is time to reflect upon the previous decade, assimilate the memories, note the learning and step in with an aura of happiness.

  1. Recap

 For me the turn of the millennium 2001 was special, I stepped into motherhood. At the beginning of 2011 my little one was 10 and that’s where I could afford to get back to myself as an individual. My child is now my companion and my teacher.


To keep track of myself, I maintained a Diary, I converted it into an event diary. The next morning to what I consider event-worthy is written there, and also on Sundays, a special round-up of all that happened during the week. This immediately reminded me of Cyrus Broacha’s The Week that Wasn’t because I would also write down the things I couldn’t achieve that week.

3. The Little signs

Unknown forces fascinate me. For example, was not too sure about the career path but during my first teachers’day celebration, I received a prize in a simple “passing the parcel” game. I was elated. I still continue to do so(win prizes). Another time, I kept meeting people who would open up and talk to me about their lives and it would sound like a replica of mine, that sign gave me courage to go on with whatever is happening and not fight furiously but to put up a good fight. The other mysterious sign was the suggestion of opening an account on Medium by a dear friend. I didn’t know it was blogging. Now I do. I just listened to my heart and to the people I trust. Then I stumbled upon WordPress.

4. Learning

 In 2012 I began working, I learnt the ways of life, I learnt that Family and Friends are your support system. I learnt you have to go through the grind, no matter what. So make it interesting. This decade taught me how to live independently. Many a time I was stranded, I took decisions that I have never regretted. I regained the immense confidence I had in myself when I was a teenager. I started taking risks. Marriage changed me, Motherhood evolved within me and I was ready for the ride. I learnt how to prepare PPTs. I learnt how not to react to certain situations just to prove a point. Silence works wonders. I learnt that Preparation is the key to achieve success, brainstorming with the right people helps, if not jot down ideas and review. I learnt how to use Instagram. I can use an android gadget and an ios one too! I learnt that the Saree has its own niche. I learnt and learnt and learnt…

5. Official/Events

It was in this decade that I pursued my Masters In English Literature, completed many certification courses, resumed working and now have some thing to call my own. I attended an National Seminar at Hyderabad. I completed #MyFriendAlexa and received a certificate. I was a part of a workshop at Pondicherry that instilled within me a unique kind of freshness that helps me wake up to create my day my way.

The idea of taking stock of the decade is a wonderful concept, we keep reading it in the papers about events around the world. And here I am taking stock of myself thanks to our wonderful hosts Rashi and Manas.

“This post is a part of ‘DECADE Blog Hop’ #DecadeHop organised by #RRxMM Rashi Roy and Manas Mukul. The Event is sponsored by Glo and co-sponsored by Beyond The BoxWedding ClapThe Colaba Store and Sanity Daily in association with authors Piyusha Vir and Richa S Mukherjee”

The Mandatory post: Takeaways from #MyFriendAlexa Season 4

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Learning from #MyFriendAlexa is the best thing that happens all the month of September. I learnt to stick to a routine. I completed my long pending task of pursuing research on French authors which it is going to help me in my work.

The comments on each blog post were pretty encouraging and it sure supported my research. Appreciation was at its best. I felt that someone there got the real message of publishing the post.

The idea of self-hosting came more than twice and I spoke to people about it. If WordPress is listening, hopefully I should upgrade soon!

Twitter as a medium of sharing is easy and eventful, I would get notifications early morning and my day was made.

Reading Lists were ideally a mixture of parenting, education, entertainment, blogging and much more. I fell in love with the cover photo of a blog, was amazed by the font of a blog, was impressed by the variety a blog could offer, read comments to understand the multiple takeaways from one post. Some blogs addressed social concerns, some talked about festivals, happiness, tips on this and tips on that. The picture/photo/image blogs and the six-word story too were very informative. As some say, a picture can speak a 1000 words, and short sentences are more brief.

What more! The Blogchatter team, tracking our reading list completion, (I actually did that after a mail was sent to catch up on my reading, wrote the names on the list, tracked it on twitter with a tick mark, and only then rested) they sending us mails regularly, updating us on whatsapp, Facebook. Isn’t that for our blog, work together and get your blog going.

My website hits with a nominal 848 grew to 1,570 hits till date.

My Alexa Country Rank is under 25,000.

Merci Beaucoup!

Questy Musings is a musing with a question. What are your take-aways from the My Friend Alexa campaign? Why do you participate? Is it discovering blogs, is it preventing your blog from gathering dust, rust? I participate, I give my thoughts a medium, a voice, an image. Happy questing!

I am taking my blog to the next level with Blogchatter’s #MyFriendAlexa

Simone de Beauvoir

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Simone Lucie Ernestine Marie Bertrand de Beauvoir was a French writer, intellectual, political activist. She had a significant influence on both feminist existentialism and feminist theory.

Born on 9 January 1908, she was known for her 1949 treatise, The Second Sex, a detailed analysis of women’s oppression and a foundational tract of contemporary feminism. De Beauvoir was intellectually precocious, fueled by her father’s encouragement; he reportedly would boast, “Simone thinks like a man!”

Writing of her youth in Memoirs of a Dutiful Daughter she said: “…my father’s individualism and pagan ethical standards were in complete contrast to the rigidly moral conventionalism of my mother’s teaching. This disequilibrium, which made my life a kind of endless disputation, is the main reason why I became an intellectual.”

It is believed that in one of the interviews De Beauvoir said: “No woman should be authorised to stay at home to bring up her children. Society should be totally different. Women should not have that choice, precisely because if there is such a choice, too many women will make that one. It is a way of forcing women in a certain direction.”

First published in 1949 in French as Le Deuxième Sexe, turns the existentialist mantra that existence precedes essence into a feminist one: “One is not born but becomes a woman” (French: “On ne naît pas femme, on le devient”)

De Beauvoir defines women as the “second sex” because women are defined in relation to men. De Beauvoir asserted that women are as capable of choice as men, and thus can choose to elevate themselves.

De Beauvoir argued that men had made women the “Other” in society by application of a false aura of “mystery” around them. She argued that men used this as an excuse not to understand women or their problems and not to help them, and that this stereotyping was always done in societies by the group higher in the hierarchy to the group lower in the hierarchy.

She wrote that a similar kind of oppression by hierarchy also happened in other categories of identity, such as race, class, and religion, but she claimed that it was nowhere more true than with gender in which men stereotyped women and used it as an excuse to organize society into a patriarchy.

De Beauvoir also wrote a four-volume autobiography, consisting of: Memoirs of a Dutiful DaughterThe Prime of LifeForce of Circumstance (sometimes published in two volumes in English translation: After the War and Hard Times); and All Said and Done.

Some of her notable works are: She Came to Stay, her first philosophical essay, Pyrrhus et Cinéas, a discussion of an existentialist ethics, Les Temps modernes, The Mandarins that won her France’s highest literary prize, Le Prix Goncourt.

Studying De Beauvoir’s work during my Masters gave me an insight on how women subtly were dealing with Feminism in their days. It also highlights the fact that language is no barrier and translation works are widely read and taught.

I am taking my blog to the next level with Blogchatter’s #MyFriendAlexa