Many a time, there has been a situation where the conversation has led to an argument and then, a misunderstanding. Hope the “many a time” becomes “rarely” after a good read here.
“Am I articulate enough?”
This is a question that you can ask yourself when you recollect your thoughts about a conversation that didn’t go your way the right way. Were you saying what you actually wanted to say? Well, if yes then great, if no then even a single gesture could have given you away.
Speaking is a skill , that includes not only the right words, but also the appropriate facial expressions and body language. The words must have instructions or information just right for the listener. Do not try to say more than required especially in formal situations. Informal is an open field where your relationship with the speaker or speakers differ. Here too there are differences, repressed anger that is usually released in the form of humour, love for a particular person is usually displayed in the form supporting statements.
I urge you to look back on a few situations and recollect your words whether they were right or not, I also encourage you to prepare… yes, for a similar situation in the future where you can be articulate enough to get the job done. Some may say we will never get into a similar situation, but I believe that if things are not happening the way you want it to most of the time, then the problem is yours, stop blaming and take charge of your words that will immediately change into action.
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D: Nice to have them at home. Or else they are usually all dressed and hurrying?
B: It’s better that way. At least they don’t tell us what to do.
A: Why does someone have to tell you what to do, if you do what you have to do.
C: They are all the time lecturing us on time management, mobile and studies. No more topics left under the sun to discuss.
B: True that!
D: We discuss politics, bollywood, hollywood, and even relatives.
A: Don’t you tell them about your friends and teachers?
C: Friends!! The minute I say friend… there is a siren at home.
C: My friends are categorised into two sections; one whom I call friends and the second set consists of whom my parents call my friends. Hence, I detest talking about friends.
D: Then what do you talk about?
C: I don’t talk… I listen.
A: Ok, now listen to me… Ha… Ha… ok hear this, the reason I called you all is that today is my Dad’s birthday and mom wants to give him a surprise but she doesn’t know what and how. Pool in some ideas!
B: Does you mom discuss all this with you? Great!
A: Of course. Why?
B: My mom is always in the kitchen when I am around. I don’t even think she remembers Dad’s birthday.
A: And on holidays?
B: She takes art sessions.
A: Wow, she is an artist.
B: Yes, and when she is free she is busy cooking for us, and only telling me to either study or arrange my cupboard.
D: Guess what I found when I arranged my cupboard last week. Our UNO pack of cards that we used to play every summer vacation.
C: My dad keeps telling me to clean my shelf and study table, as if I am even going to study.
A: Why… don’t you study?
C: Who studies all the time? I study only for the exams.
B: Same here, but I do a little math homework otherwise a call goes to my Dad.
A: Anyway guys, it’s my Dad’s birthday…
D: We remember… how about getting a cake?
A: I have done that. Something different.
B: Why different? Is you dad going to appreciate it. All that my dad would say “you shouldn’t have spent so much money”.
A: I don’t want to think about that. My mom and I want to surprise him… that’s her idea. Do you get it?
B: How will I get it when my dad surprises me every time with a new reason to shout at me?
A: That’s ridiculous. Why does your dad shout at you?
B: That’s because he doesn’t like me.
A: Why doesn’t he like you? What does he say that makes you feel that way?
B: He calls me useless all the time.
A: And why do you think he does that?
B: Because when he comes home, I am sleepy and just lazing around.
A: Do you greet him when he comes?
A: Do you tell him about your school?
A: Then what do you do?
A: No wonder he calls you useless.
C: ha.. ha.. ha… hee… hee… hee…
A: Quiet here, My Dad’s bithday is coming to an end dicussing his dad, and you are laughing.
C: Sorry Dude.
D: My dad walks in with a contagious smile and always has something hilarious to tell us.
B: My dad is hilarious, he walks in with the phone on one ear, walks straight into the room, and comes back with the phone on the other ear.
A: I think you must have dinner with your dad and prove it to him that you are not useless.
B: Tried that too… he only asks how much did I study today and whether I have a test tomorrow? For both which I always reply in the negative and this upsets him. And then he goes back to the ear-changing action on the phone.
C: I sneak into my room the minute dad comes. He’a always asking me silly things like do you know what happened in the parliament today?
D: I wait for my Dad.
B: I go to sleep before he arrives.
A: It’s my Dad’s birthday today!!!!
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Its been eight years that I started teaching (in a big way), and the satisfaction is immense. My website’s name itself is “apprendre24” that translates into learn/teach 24 hours a day. Some people find it uninteresting to learn as “Learning happens only in school” and nobody wants to be “taught”. But I stick to my guns and go ahead saying each moment is a learning experience. It is only a matter of understanding.
Anyway today’s learning is about teenagers. The teenager in the house is always docile until it has something to with making him (no gender discrimination, here it is a he) move himself from his cozy corner, be it in front of the computer or on the corner of the bed. The second time he reacts (unpredictably) is when a family member (me, of course) asks him to set the dinner table. Otherwise he is the most calm, fun-loving and enthusiastic person at home.
I realised they have to be instructed only once about a certain subject and then never to even breathe about it any time until completion of the task (a watsapp message in case of deadline tasks). The task will be completed. Converstations must be a listening activity (like in a foreign language class) with a few hmm…’s and okays. Suggestions must be without any expression or gestures. And there you are with a best friend for life.
The teenagers have only seven years at their disposal for the coveted title, and let us enjoy these years along with them asking them to do all that we don’t want them to do which they surely will. Latest example : I just told my teenager son to turn off the songs playing on his mobile that were invading my thoughts while typing this blog and voilà… there he is with the fancy earphones doing exactly what he was asked not to do. All’s well that ends well. Until next time. Au revoir