Where am I?

Where am I? I am here and so are you? Why are we here? Where are you? You are where you are supposed to be. You will reach where you are destined to. After trying to discover who am I (in my previous post https://apprendre24.wordpress.com/2021/08/08/who-am-i/ ) , here I am trying to decipher where am I, despite having my address on the Adhaar card, I can still question my humble soul about its domicile. Let’s do it!

If everything was in our hands, we would have been on Space – X with Musk. Chuckle 😉

  1. The Marriage

I need to address (pun intended) the concept of marriage here, where there is a change of place for most women who go on to stay with their in-laws (of course, the trend is changing now, a little better than ever), a complete change of scene where she is a new-comer rebooting her life. A fact that I never-ever understood! Why??

But as one reaches the marriageable age, things are different, sometimes all some young ladies want is a break, and this is the perfect one (with a hubby and a Honey-Moon, not mentioning the laws that have to be abided by.. ha ha!!)

I choose to believe that a married spouse is filled with strength and can re-start over again, and the laws 😉 need a change in life-style, and therein enters the spouse stirring various emotions leading to a mush-required change. The spouse is at the right place at the right time to put the house in order!!

Note: In earlier times, I would have typed the lady instead of spouse. With changing times, lets change our vocabulary.

2. Education

This comes way before marriage; now it is more of a personal choice after School, but earlier the Hostel or Boarding school were dreaded phrases.

The education received outside the house is real and stays with you. At home, everything is taken for granted. If you went away from home to study, your have learnt life skills with education. Lucky you!

Where am I? If you are at a place that you aren’t happy, consider it a learning experience, if you are at a place that is difficult to adapt to, be it the heat, the cold, the vibes, the aura or the ambiance, try moving around things to get comfortable. I can vouch for this. Why are you in a particular place? You would know that after you leave it!

3. Your choice

Where are you? Not by luck or marriage or work, but by choice. If you are the person who made a choice and got to go there, kudos to you. You stay there irrespective whether you like it or not, YOU STAY PUT, because it is your choice.

Also your choice is through a conviction that you have very strongly stood by. The choice is always yours!!

In my opinion, where you are is the right place as of now, but if you feel the need to change, do it, however difficult.

Questy Musings is a musing with a question. I have certain questions that keep me busy when i have nothing to do. Sharing my thoughts aloud, I wonder if this post touched you and made you reflect upon certain aspects of your life, my blog, my write-up here has achieved its mission. Let me know where are you? See you around soon.

This post is a part of Blogchatter Half Marathon’ : https://www.theblogchatter.com/

Who am I?

An identity is something we all live with. With each passing day, our priorities change, our personality changes, we change. There is always an urge to improve, to be perform better, to set higher standards. Does this affect who we are? Does it change our identity? Does it change who we are? Or does it push us to who we actually are? The existentialism approach or the identity crisis?

There comes a point in one’s life that this question pops up and we also wonder if it is a right question, because we already have a name, a date of birth, an address, a nationality. The question totally shatters our world when we dig deep into ourselves, but this is the only way to achieve an identity, to find the essence of life and remain content with it.

Quite often we meet people and comment later “Look, how much she/he has changed.” Change is so visible and not accepted easily that people also think twice before changing any aspect of their life if they need to answer the question who she/he is?

I have identified 3 phases of life where one usually questions oneself

  1. While making a career choice.
  2. When someone says the truth about you.
  3. When you meet a larger than life personality in person.

1. While making a career choice.

Who are you and what do you want to do with that information is strongly felt while choosing a career.

An identity is different from one’s character and personal choice. A career must being money and happiness. only if the true you chooses it, it is worth the effort. Thinking of who you are helps you identify your career.

What do you want to do? is a constantly asked question, and a strong one. The answer is sometimes straightforward, sometimes dodged. Adolescents find it difficult to deal with because they are still figuring themselves. Children, on the other hand promptly answer as they do not fear judgement. This judgement is one of the major causes of not finding the real you.

2. When someone says the truth about you

An argument, a fight, a deep conversation contain revelations. Pay strong attention to the words more than the tone. They contain profound observations. If you are hurt, it is usually because you are not able to accept the reality of the situation, and that drives home certain aspects of your personality or character you weren’t aware of.

We are all aware of our hard truths, accept it. That is the only way out. Trying to change who we are is an act. And remember, acting can be stressful.

In certain situations yes, one needs to act, but

Who we are and what we portray are sometimes contrary based on the situation, and that is being smart. But in the bargain, don’t lose the real you, because it would eventually show up.

3. When you meet a larger than life personality in person.

Meeting a larger than life personality like a sportsperson, scientist, author is an experience in itself. We want to know the real them, and are always eager to meet them in person. Why?? Because you think that they are different, that they are successful, that they are blessed, that they have an extra sparkle in their eye.

When you meet them, you feel you have met the real them. That brings in different emotions also questioning who you are, and why can’t you achieve such a larger than life personality. The environment around us triggers question on our existence.

In The Problem of Method, Sartre redefines the focus of existentialism as the individual understood as belonging to a certain social situation, but not totally determined by it. For the individual is always going beyond what is given, with his own aims and projects. https://iep.utm.edu/sartre-ex/#H5

In my understanding, Who we are depends on the social situation Or environment we are in. And a person will always go beyond what is epected from him with his own aims and goals.

Questy Musings is a musing with a question. I have certain questions that keep me busy when i have nothing to do. Sharing my thoughts aloud, I wonder if this post touched you and made you reflect upon certain aspects of your life, my blog, my write-up here has achieved its mission. Let me know who you are? See you around soon.

This post is a part of Blogchatter Half Marathon’ : https://www.theblogchatter.com/

E-Book Talk: The story of a Story

Name of the E-book: The story of a Story

Author: Ravish Mani

E-Book Released on: 21 May 2021

Available on: The Blogchatter website: https://www.theblogchatter.com/download/the-story-of-story-by-ravish-mani

Number of pages: 47

Genre: Writing

Book Blurb: The book, The Story of STORY, talks about important aspects of storytelling through the story of STORY itself from evolutionary perspective. It mainly deals with why people read stories and how to leverage it to write impactful stories for providing powerful aesthetic experience to the readers.

About the book: The Story of a story by Ravish Mani is an absolutely inspiring book for authors or aspiring authors. It covers different aspects, layered beautifully talking about the protagonist, arousal of emotions in readers, belief formation, etc. The book systematically breaks down the story of a story with excellent examples to help the reader understand very well.

The examples deserve an extra mention, they communicate the message diligently, and I personally need to re-read the book a couple of times more to understand the depth it wants an author to reach.

There is a spiritual touch to the book where the author talks of desire, karma, pain and pleasure. It is truly to be read to experience this aspect.

The author’s laptop had crashed two days prior to the submission, but the effort of launching the E-book typed on a phone is commendable. The cover page could get more creative as it is the first impression of he book.

The author has given brief information, strong words and even stronger titles that are on point. The not so long book can be read soon, but an aspiring author must make notes while reading. The miscellaneous topics are a bonus to the readers. The author’s earnest desire to share information is mentioned in his own words “It invoked a desire in me to provide useful information to aspiring authors by sharing my expertise in the field of storytelling by launching a book through this Carnival.”

This book can be downloaded from the Blogchatter website. It is a must read and will keep you engrossed with the story of a Story. It has something very transparent and raw which must be experienced.

About the Author:

Amazon.com: Ravish Mani: Books, Biography, Blog, Audiobooks, Kindle

Ravish Mani is a life adviser and story consultant. He’s known in the blogosphere for his spiritual approach, analytical abilities, multidimensional perspectives, and helping nature.
He is an introvert but always ready for meaningful interaction. He lives a simple life & is fascinated by the human mind.He believes you don’t read a book, you read a mind. He loves reading books, and through books, the mind of their authors.
To know more about him, get in touch with him.
Email: booksasisee@ravishmani.com
Twitter: @ravishmani
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