Questy Musings

Do you have it all?

Do you have it all? or Do you have it in you?

Both can be different questions, and the answer is always YES.

You have it all, what you need, and you can keep trying owning the fact that what you have is good, and it can be better,

NOT

what you have is not good. That makes all the difference.

If you enjoy what you have, even if it is less, you can strive to make more, but if you crib, in the long run, you will continue to crib. Attitude is all that matters. I am sure you have seen people with not so excellent skills set but an attitude to reach the stars. They are the ones who keep trying and achieve that skill set they need.

The time that you have, the 24 hours, and an positive attitude is all that matters, all other reasons are humbug.

It is only you and you who can change things, all the motivational talks are to push you to get up, not just sit there and wait for more motivations, a new day is enough motivation. And it occurs every 24 hours.

I have incorporated some new habits, consciously, it has not led to instant success, but made me confident to take up new tasks, to work in an efficient manner.

Each day we meet new people, read new content, listen to new music, watch new series. Why? To feel different, and keep updated with the latest. You are luck you have that Netflix subscription, your city power grid id functioning, your are healthy enough to meet new people. You have it all, appreciate it and be grateful every single moment.

Now the perspective from the other side, when someone meets you after a while, do they sense a whiff of fresh air around you, you are the same person but haven’t wilted away, you still have it in you. Thats YOU!

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A listener or a problem-solver?

So, we all have have issues, small, big, or we just want to vent out. Where do you go? To a friend, to a sibling, to a parent.

Usually, when we speak about a problem, or something that is on our mind. maybe not a problem exactly, the first thing we need is a listener, the listener is a person with whom we are comfortable, so that we narrate things in an order, most of the time, adding our opinions, explaining the expressions, the scenery, the climate, etc..

And if we were wrong in a particular judgement, the listener, if not experienced in this venting, starts solving the problem, and may comment that there was a better way the situation could have been handled. And then occurs chaos because we are not done yet explaining, but here is a solution being offered without complete knowledge of the affairs.

A problem-solver is when you are in a soup, or need to take a decision, discussing pros and cons. Literally, a person with whom you can talk without hesitation about your ideas, your thoughts, real opinions of a person or a situation, and then when you both are on the same page, they, as an outsider without bias can help you solve.

Now, from the other side, who are you as a person? Do you listen or you quickly start judging? Do you start solving the problem in your head?

Do you react or over-react?

Expectations are a part of human tendency. We expect things to go a certain way, we expect a certain result, we expect people to talk in a certain way. And when things go right, it is bliss.

But if the results are deviated, it is chaos. What do you do at this point? React or over-react?

If you sit and analyse what happened, it helps, but at that time, the sadness comes out in the form of anger and blinds you.

You need to let out your emotions, but not in a restrained manner, and channelize them.

Take a bath, refresh yourself
Divert the attention
Think of/Consider alternate routes.
Understand the people you were dealing with
Make sure you understand, why and what happened.

These expectations are a part of life, one thing goes wring is not the end of the road, people and thing are sometimes vulnerable and circumstances may change.